Living in Exile : Life as a bachelor

Dear God

There is no manual to parenting. What works for one child can go terribly wrong for another and there are no immediate results. You take a decision now and the impact will hit you years after. In addition to comparison with the proverbial model child or ruined bad ass (as the case maybe), the worst thing you can do to your child is blame them for how they choose to live their respective lives. Having said that..

Marriage / Mirage…what’s in a name God when both mean the same for me – Unrealistic expectations. When I imagined my life 10 or 15 years back, I could never imagine I would be living this dream. Now I am. I did well in life and I Thank You for that God. Times when I had no one to turn to, you showed me ways which never existed before. And here I am….

Now it feels weird to think of sharing my life with someone. People on the outside think bachelors have this irresponsible, reckless life and home with no focus or future plans. Tell you what? It is not like that at all. My bachelor’s pad is a blissful happy home where I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want and where too! Being alone is all about being responsible for your home and life.

I love the fact that I never have to choose which side of my bed I should sleep on. I love the fact that I have to ask no one for having two lovely fur balls in my home and help a lot more strays with food and sometimes shelter. I love the fact that I can wear whatever I want, I never have to ask ‘Moti lag rahi hu kya?’ Lag bhi rahi hoti hoon to kya? I start working out and get back in shape or not… by choice and not because my significant other is looking at other girls with admiration. Waise no matter what you do, the significant other will always find the grass greener on the other side. So, who cares?

I love the fact that once I shut the door of my home, sweet home I can just enjoy my peace. Silence is bliss guys…realize that. I also love the fact that I can write these articles without having to abandon my train of thoughts and pause for his coffee or dinner or whatever!!

For those who want to try being with someone else for the rest of their lives… Ja Simran jee le apni zindagi. As far as I am concerned Is Simran ko bhi to jeene ka haq hai ki nahin?

Love You God – My friend, philosopher, guide and what not. Thank You for this life and Thank You for keeping me safe always.

Indian matchmaking : A Review

Dear God

Sample this:

 Aparna 34: Requires ambitious, serious and caring life partner who shares her love of travelling.

Pradyumn 30: Creative, attractive, fond of travelling wants a life partner who is attractive, interesting to talk to and artsy.

Nadia Approx. 30: Extrovert, friendly, outgoing wants a life partner who shares her vivacity.

Now when Seema Aunty set out to match make for these three, I like that she showed bio-datas to all of them. To the guy she showed so many bio-datas and calls him confused when he does not want to meet up with any of them. Smart guy Pradyumn otherwise you would have spent 100s of hours meeting girls who you will never see again in your future. To Aparna she shows one and when she does not want to meet that guy, she just labels her as stubborn and negative. If you ask me, Aparna is not stubborn. She is someone who knows what she wants. Then with her persuasion, she agrees to meet a guy totally not her type. Srini is ok but he is seven years older than her and does not have a concrete future plan. Being indecisive about what to wear is kind of ok sometimes, but this is life we are talking about. Why would we match an ambitious, driven, focussed person with someone who does not know what he/she wants to do in future. It is her life after all. When she refuses to further consider, again the word stubborn! OMG so matchmaking suddenly means you accept the very first proposal you come across…really Aunty?

And then she takes the cake when she matches Aparna with a divorcee who choses to conceal his marital history. That too when Aunty knows and she tries to downplay the whole thing!!

And then we have Akshay: a 20 something young man with marrying young running in the family. The way his mom keeps pressurizing him to get married is so stereo-typically Indian.

Overall for an informed, educated, mature person like me Indian Matchmaking is a dish hardly appetizing.

PS: The views expressed in this article are my own personal opinion and I agree to disagree with people who do not share my views.