Dear God
Sample this:
You are in a team meeting planning an event and suddenly the Team lead randomly says:
You must keep your ego aside and work on this like a team...understood (All the while looking at you) and Bam! (Your Name) loud and clear for the whole room to hear.
You wish to just dive deep into a hole and never emerge. Thoroughly embarrassed by this random comment by your superior in front of your colleagues, peers and juniors..that too by someone who has known you long enough to understand you are a helluva team player. This is someone who has assessed your abilities and given you top ratings. Someone who has appreciated your skills and complemented your efforts.
Instead of motivating you for the humongous task ahead you have now been labeled as a problem child! A weak link in the chain and now you are left with two options…
A.Become a pushover and let them walk no…no…stomp all over you.
Or
B.Respond aggressively and hog all the credit….
Being the drama queen that I am, I chose the third…walk away.
Opportunities can come and go but your self respect remains. One of us has to put a stop to this random hurtful behaviour which they labeled as discipline. It's not discipline to shame your subordinates for being vocal about how you or anyone else for that matter treats them.
One of us has to be the flag bearer of appropriate behaviour in official settings. However stressed you are, it's not ok to shout at us…
No matter what you have heard about us, it's not ok to state your judgemental opinions in official settings.
And no matter how close you think you are…. it's not ok to rebuke an adult like a child!!
There is a time and place for everything and this…Sir! Was certainly not the place…
Patronising women in official settings makes it difficult for us to be authoritative. As it is, women are labeled as too bossy or too soft or too uptight or too ... .something or the other. We don't need this too!!!
I know people who have trivialised this shoddy show and said you are making a mountain out of a molehill. However, it was my molehill in the first place. I knew what to make of it!
Let others be ok with people walking all over them and killing their spirit. I am not and
I will never be….
