The weaker sex???

Dear God

Picture this:

'Mam I wish you played sports. Wanted to see you in shorts…'

'Unmarried ladkiyan n jane kyu tours par chali jaati hai. Wo bhi akeli!'

'Tumhe to kuchh kaam rehta nhi hoga. I am sure you can give more time to socializing.'

‘Pata nahin itna sab kuchh kaise hoga? I don’t even know how to do a train reservation…

These are the words of my colleagues, ladies I know and random people I meet in due course of my employment. I was shocked at the blatant sexism and ignorance. The most shocking part of these conversations is these are people I know. The words of people who work with me or under my supervision or else well educated people who have suddenly started lecturing me on the perils of being a working woman. I am shocked to say the least and disgusted at their attitude.

Moreover, I am tired of the damsels in distress I have come across. These are all grown up men who have everything in the world including android phones and social media presence. Yet they are unable to make travel plans, book tickets or order stuff online. All of them need overpaid secretaries who are at their beck and call 24*7.

When a financially independent woman is in a relationship, suddenly the burden of chivalry falls on her shoulders. I have seen them running around making travel plans, organizing surprises and giving lavish gifts to friends and family. They can’t afford to expect anything in return though. I have seen men in their lives saying stuff like:

‘Mere upar to poore ghar ki responsibility hai. I cannot splurge like you.’

‘You really need to save some money. Please work on it. Your financial skills are awful.’

They dare say this to the women who spend no money/ little money on themselves. The need to stay in a 5 star hotel arises from the fact that their companions refuse to accept substandard service and ambiance. The men in their lives want to experience the best of the world but not on their own merit. Yet when she arranges all of it for them they take it with a pinch of salt. They make us feel guilty for falling in love. They call us demanding when we are hardly expecting anything other than their love. Some little TLC costs nothing yet it is a far-fetched dream for women like me. It costs nothing to be nice and yet!!

The worst part is when you confront womanizers. They will fold their hands, make a teary face. Talk like their whole world will crumble if you do not forgive and forget right that second. They start bringing their family in the picture and would repeatedly ask to be reassured. The eyes which bore through your dress would suddenly be lowered. The leery voices laced with disgusting undertones would suddenly be oozing with respect. It all makes me wonder, if they are all that sacred, why make the wrong moves in the first place.

I am so tired of looking for a man who is man enough. Then they dare call us the weaker sex!!