Dear God
Sample this:
We are in the middle of a conversation discussing personality traits and suddenly
this happens:
‘Ek baat puchhu?’ ‘Ab ye mat puchhna ki main tumhare sath hun ya nahin!’
Endless times when we were out of touch for extended periods of time; I
asked him this question. It cropped up in many of our conversations and was
always an integral part of after fight conversations. Somehow for me, it was
always important to have a yes from him. Today when he said this suddenly it
dawned ‘If you know, you need not ask. If you ask, somehow you already know the
answer.’ It is so wrong to trust someone/anyone with your insecurities and
vulnerabilities. On this journey of self-reflection, today I will share my
findings with you all.
Chetan Bhagat Sir had known Three mistakes of my life and here I
know of these:
a. Keep your weaknesses to yourself:
The worst possible thing you can do to yourself
is sharing your vulnerable side with people. All they do is use them to make
you feel worse when you feel bad. Playing to the tune of your insecurities is something
so predictable in today’s world. It is akin to bullying normalised.
b. Your secrets are never safe with anyone but yourself: Kisi se mat
batana is like cheating on your diet. You know you will end up eating that
chocolate cake kept on the table. Remember, just like you trusted someone, this
someone in question in turn trusts someone and so on… this is by far the worst
chain reaction that you initiate.
c. Never ask anyone else about your personality traits: The opinion in
question will always be tainted with their personal experience with you.
Remember they can not know your inner thoughts, feelings and experiences. The
things you share with people are only tips of icebergs. You and only you will
know how your mind and heart works. You have to have faith in your own judgement
and perception when it comes to you.
d. When in crowd, play the people pleaser: Mobs are not meant to be a place
where you show your insecurities and sob stories. No one is interested in your personal
losses and disappointments. If you are feeling sad, hurt, angry or disappointed
please keep to yourself.
e. Your smiles are your biggest assets: No matter what is going on in your
heart and mind, you have to keep your gaze sharp and your smile intact. Think
of it as your nuclear weapon. Indifference to judgemental attitude confuses
them and keeps them away from you.
f. Open books are things of the past: Please do not think of being an open
book. This age of information overload has ensured that people know you by
simply observing. That is why let our personalities be a treasure to be
cherished and uncovered little by little. Never reveal it all…
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