Once upon a time in a small city:
‘So you are not coming home?
No, I am planning a solo trip.
WHAT!! WHY?WHEN? I am coming with you…
Please, I have to take this journey alone.
Why? There is absolutely no need and so on and so forth.
He was scared of the possibility and it was evident on his face. His little
one, venturing out on her own to a place she has never been before at a time
when someone somewhere was getting hitched. Here are her reasons:
1. She is not insane. She is a perfectly mature adult who has the right to
go anytime anywhere as she desires. Being on her own only strengthens and empowers.
2. She does not want to listen to how it is not your fault. The fault was
all his and he will repent. He will pay for his sins(!) and she will get much better
than him. She strictly does not want you to reopen her wounds by saying this or
cause any further damage by hurling abuses at her when all else fails.
3. She does not want to look at all the Mr. Eligibels’ profiles dangled in
front of her like a bait. Not so soon after she is hurt and is licking her wounds.
She is well aware of her biological clock and even then, does not want to be
rushed into a decision. She can’t be cornered into making one. She will marry
if and only if she finds someone of her choice. But the important thing here is
not her finding someone, that someone has to find her.
4. She is in unbearable pain and she is almost doubled up with it. She does
not want anyone to see her when she is at her weakest. These last few days of
her dying relationship are only for her to bear. She wants to say goodbye in a
special way, her way, her very own way. Plus she does not want anyone to have the
opportunity to strike this iron while its hot.
5. Why the financial liability – for job security. For helping her carry on
with her job She does not want to bother you with her problems. Trust her, this
one is on her and if you don’t – not her problem!
6. She wants you to stop fussing over her. She is so far away from everyone
right now. Hardly has the will to fight with you or anyone else for that
matter. She is doing some things for herself. Neither her reasons, nor her
decision is wrong. She is tired, tired, tired. Allow her this respite.
7. No, she is not insane. Not out of her mind… Someone who is planning her
every move to the last T is never insane.
Allow her to go on this journey of self-discovery. She will come back when
she is ready.
A lot of people may term this as selfish. But she is beyond care now. She
knows what she is doing and she will do exactly that. She needs to heal so
desperately. She has become a sinking ship which is mustering her last strength
to take her ashore. She will emerge better and stronger soon…real soon.
PS: She did…
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